Sometimes divorce is the only option but don’t you think that there should be more regulations regarding divorce? People get married & get divorced now a days like it’s going out on a date & then breaking up which is watering down the sacred union that is supposed to be. Not to mention the strain that it causes on everyone involved the children of the people, the financial aspects, etc. I’m not condemning or judging people who have been through divorce but talking about people who just get married & get divorced without even trying to resolve their problems & then repeat the same thing time & time again. Any opinions? Thank you.
Mo in the Middle: Even from a secular point do you think that their should be more regulations?
Surfman: I said at the beginning that sometimes divorce is necessary please read my whole question before answering & if you actually did read the question please quit twisting the words up.
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The last thing we need are more laws. Why people want to ruled or rule over others with crazy laws is a mystery to me.
Edit: How would you like a judge sentencing you to a year in jail for not “working things out” with your new husband? Or, how would you like being trapped in an abusive or unhappy marriage because law demanded it? See my point? Freedom is what people need, not restriction of it.
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I didn’t twist your words. They’re written right there. Look at them. You’re asking if I think there should be “legal regulations” (ie- laws) regarding divorce. My answer is no, there shouldn’t be laws regarding divorce. You should have the freedom to marry and the freedom to divorce. The keyword being freedom.
You lost me at the word sacred. It’s a secular union. Any religious ramifications should have to be dealt with in the hereafter.
ADDED: No, I don’t think there should be civil penalties for divorce or added regulation. Government is not the answer for everything. Perhaps we should just do a better job raising our children.
We got married along in the sixties and the subject of divorce has never come up, so I guess it isn’t going to. So really no opinion concerning the subject. We have never been real strong on caring what other folks do.
No, I don’t.
You may believe in a “sacred union,” but not everyone shares your religious stance. It’s a social union, not a sacred one, to most people.
Would it be better overall for “society” if there were less divorce? Possibly, though that’s by no means certain. While there are, of course, children of divorced families today that are hurt by the arguing and fighting and splitting up of their parents, there were quite probably just as many children “damaged” by parents who couldn’t stand each other in previous years but who stayed together because divorce wasn’t “socially acceptable.” Which one is worse? I don’t know — some good objective studies would help us figure out which kind of option harms society more.
My own parents divorced when I was 14, and though at the time I was very sad about it, from an adult perspective I can clearly see that it was much better for them to divorce than it would have been for them to stay together. After the divorce they remained cordial, both still helped raise the 3 kids, and all 3 of us turned out to be well-adjusted, have productive lives and good careers, and have good families of our own. And both of my parents were MUCH happier after the divorce than they were when they were together — I can’t imagine how messed up they would be now had they stayed together, and how that would have affected the kids.
I also think you’re overstating the “problem” a bit — I’d bet that the number of people who divorce without trying to resolve their problems is very, very small — everyone I know makes great efforts to resolve them, and divorce is a last resort, not a quickie option.
It really is NOT best for two people who can’t stand each other to stay together. It’s not healthy for them or their children. I do think that there should be more assistance in terms of education and counseling available for divorcing couples and their families though — teaching them how to handle this difficult situation well, especially when their are children involved, would be a big help.
Peace.
I think the laws should be adjusted, not necessarily added to. Marriage is and always has been a sacred union instituted by God. The courts really need to stay out of it to begin with. The church should have never allowed the state to take dominion over marriage.
It is my opinion that divorce is NOT an option, and if this is understood going in, perhaps less people would be entering bad marriages to begin with. Pre-Marital counseling should be a requirement for getting married, at any age and no matter how many times someone has been married. Knowledge is power, and proper education could prevent many disasters and broken families and broken hearts. This whole “we can always get divorced if it doesn’t work” concept is the biggest scam out there and has caused society to go downhill rather rapidly. Too many lives have been broken because divorce was thought of as an easy option going in. If you go in thinking you MIGHT get divorced, why are you getting married to begin with? This should be an obvious red flag that the relationship is already in trouble and this might not be the right person for you!
Think before you jump, and use your head a little.